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How many of us here have self-esteem problem? Nah, don’t lie. There must be at least one area in your live that you feel incompetent, no?

Nobody is going to judge you for feeling low about yourself. Most people have the tendency to compare among themselves. As we meet different people every day, these people can be your oikos, your classmates, your clients or even the waiter/ess who serve you a meal. Some of them may look more attractive than another. Some may look smart but acting like a fool. Every one is just so unique as an individual as we are raised from different cultures. And therefore, we have different beliefs and principalities. So it isn’t surprising if you feel intimidated at times, you worry you will be rejected if you don’t follow what the popular do.

It’s absolutely normal to get timid at first when you cross path with someone who looks more superior than you. You scare to say something wrong to make yourself a fool in front of others. But since we are all unique creatures, aren’t we are supposed to compliment each other and not let another intimidate you?

Check yourself, if that is within your ability and capability to change for better then do it. Learn a new skill or pick up a foreign language if this will value add yourself. Shed some pounds if you think you’re overweight. Don’t complain, complain does not resolve any issue. Well, that’s always a kerb to learn. So fear not. At least I believe this is something all of us can learn to improve ourselves so to overcome the fear of rejection.

But if you feel insecure of your outer appearance and thinking of a makeover, yep, more than changing a hairstyle then something is wrong with you. Repent, son. For you are fearfully and wonderfully made, there is no need to go for cosmetic surgery to make yourself a better person. Do not be naive. Your look does not determine of who you are, it is the attitude you approach life that makes all matter. Once you’re hooked, you get addicted and keep on changing yourself, thinking I can look better if I change my feature another time. Or worse, you keep on changing as the previous surgery doesn’t show your desired result.

With much cliche saying, people weigh your characters more than the features on your face. It’s an old saying but a solid truth. Put aside biblical teaching and think practical now. Can you imagine how your parents will feel towards your makeover? Hell sad and disappointing and yet have to pretend to be alright with your request? How do you expect others to accept you when you cannot even accept yourself? If you’re born to have single eye-lid, accept them and be grateful because you’re not blind. If you’re thinking of reshaping your nose, drop the thought instead and be thankful at least you’re still breathing.

Think twice or even thrice if the person cannot take you as who you are as a whole. A whole and a complete individual. Someone who loves and cares for you will accept your appearance, characters, personalities, strength and weakness as a package. And this is what acceptance all about - a full package!

Nugget of truth - Nothing in this world is permanent, they all fade. So make do with what you have and make the best out of it.